This past week I was listening to a podcast and the speaker said many times we would rather make a point than make a difference. He went on to say that many times, making the point will make us feel better but if we don’t make a difference then it didn’t really matter. Not only that but you may have made the point but you may have lost the right to do anything else.

I unfortunately had this exemplified to me shortly there after. I received a letter in which someone expressed their feelings about a topic. They felt that I had been inconsiderate about something. They made their point but at the end of the day there is no difference. The time for a decision on the topic has come and gone. I cannot change that. Sadly, the person who wrote me has decided that in conjunction with making their point they were going to stop talking to my family and me. This person has made their point but they have made no difference. Not only that but they have willingly removed themselves from any future interaction which could have made a difference.

This leads me to this, are you making a point just to make a point? If so, what is it costing you? Would it be more beneficial to you or those around you if you made a difference instead? In order to make a difference, you might have to let your point slip by or drop it all together. This can be tough in a world where all just want to be right.

I’m not sure how this will look for me but I know I would rather make a difference. I would like to be able to look back and know that I changed something for the good than to have made my point and lost any chance to do anything more.